Introduction
Since the
time when Adam realized he was without a mate, thereby experiencing
loneliness, many persons have found themselves in a similar state. A
careful examination of Scripture reveals a deep concern for the "widows
and fatherless," individuals who, in their singleness, might be
struggling. Not all singles in our society today are struggling—any
more than married people struggle—but all these people have special
family needs.
Paul visualized the church as an oasis where
all gifts were valuable, a home where all could find fellowship and
support. All who belong to Christ, are Abraham's seed, and heirs
according to the promise. (Galatians 3:29) The fellowship of believers
in Christ transcends sexual, racial, economic, marital, or social
distinctions.
Duties of the Singles Coordinator
The
duties of a person when he or she becomes a coordinator of singles
ministries in the church will include the following duties.
1. Form a Committee. Find
responsible people who will help plan and develop activities and
programs. Keep in mind when choosing committee members that the adult
singles need to "own" their ministry in order for it to be relevant to
their needs. Other important aspects of your ministry will be to
brainstorm, develop friendship in the committees, and delegate
responsibilities in a way that involves as many individuals as possible
in the program.
2. Bible Study. A ministry to single
adults must include Bible teaching which may take place in a large or
small group situation, or maybe both. Small group Bible studies can
meet during Sabbath School and be recognized as a Sabbath School class,
or meet as a Home Bible Fellowship, or a midweek meeting at the church.
Large group activities might take the form of a monthly Singles
Fellowship where Bible study would not be the only item on the agenda.
3. Involve Singles in the Worship Service. Look
for ways to help the singles in the church to become part of the
worship services and contribute to a spirit of commitment among the
members of the church.
4. Plan Entry Events. You will
need to help the church plan entry events and build pathways that will
attract new members, specifically single members, and nurture their
growing faith. A divorce recovery seminar, a single parent workshop,
and other seminar packages are available.
5. Attitudes. Help
the congregation and its leaders develop a non-judgmental, open and
accepting attitude. Focus on how to minister to singles in the
situations in which they are found. The question is "What can be done
now?" Rather than, "What happened?" or "Why did you do what you did to
get yourself into this?"
Responsibilities in the Local Church, by Monte Sahlin, General Editor. Copyright © 1997. NAD, Church Resources Consortium.
